Why You’re Thirty and Flirty But Not Thriving in Love
Remember that movie, “13 Going on 30”, where Jennifer Garner’s character wakes up 17 years older?
She’s suddenly thirty and flirty, glamorous, and seemingly successful. But is she truly thriving?
Jenna, the protagonist, has the career, the money, basically, the whole adult package. Yet, beneath the glitz, there’s a void. Love, the elusive butterfly, remains out of reach.
Regrets about past decisions gnaw at her, making her wish she could rewind to a simpler time, to fix what went wrong, especially in terms of love.
Jenna’s story resonates with many of us, both men and women. We chase careers, ambitions, and milestones, hoping for that magical “fast-forward” to a picture-perfect life.
But in our haste, we sometimes forget the most important ingredient to a fulfilling life: love. Something that life after 30 shouldn’t be without.
Why You’re Not Thriving in Love
You got it all, the looks, money, career, but you’re not happy. You’re looking for something, someone who will make you feel alive. You’re thirty and flirty, but you feel like you’re not thriving.
Here are some reasons why you’re not thriving in love:
1. You’re too ambitious.
It’s true, ambition is intoxicating. Building your dream career often demands laser focus, leaving little room for candlelit dinners and spontaneous weekend getaways.
But remember, love and career aren’t mutually exclusive rivals. Finding a partner who celebrates your hustle, not threatens it, can actually be fuel for your professional fire.
2. You forgot how to have fun.
Remember the days of carefree bar crawls and endless casual dates? That’s all part of the past now. You’re now so focused on your ambition that you forgot how to have fun.
While those carefree years might be behind you, socializing doesn’t have to fade with age. Loosen up a bit and explore new circles!
3. You have high standards.
You have a successful career and all, so you also want the best for your love life. You immediately say “no” to every person who is not on the same wavelength as you.
It’s not bad to have high standards when it comes to finding a partner. But you also have to keep an open mind. Otherwise, you might be seen as an intimidating, unlovable person.
Life Is Not a Movie
More than just a rom-com, “13 Going on 30” reminds us that life is a journey. It’s not about how much money you’ve earned, or how many awards you’ve collected.
It’s about creating connections, embracing vulnerability, and finding fulfillment in the present moment.
But life is not a movie. We can’t rewind or fast forward. The present is where the magic happens, where new chapters unfold.
While You Chase Your Dreams, Don't Forget to Find Love
As we strive for our goals and chase our dreams, it’s easy to get caught up in the pursuit of success.
We hustle, we grind, and we push ourselves to achieve, often neglecting other aspects of our lives.
I know some won’t agree with me, but love is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Human as we are, we need to build connections with others to thrive. And I’m not just talking about professional connections; what we need is love, emotions, and intimacy.
So, while you’re chasing your dreams, don’t forget to find love. Be thirty and flirty and thriving in every aspect of your life, even romance.
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