What To Get a Filipina for Valentine's
It’s probably fair to say that you know what you want - to be dating a beautiful Filipino woman. In fact, you know it well enough that you got on a plane and sought it out. And you were successful and now you’re in a relationship with a Filipina. So you’ve got a pretty good grasp on what you like.
But the thing is that you may not have the firmest of grasps on what your partner likes. You may not know what they want and normally, you’d have time to learn what it is they’re into. But the thing is that circumstances aren’t exactly normal at the moment.
There’s a date that’s approaching fast and you need to know what it is they like and what it is they want so you can make that date as special as possible for them. That date is the 14th of February, otherwise known as Valentine’s Day. It’s the day where true love is celebrated.
Maybe you’ve got a plan brewing in your head. You’ve got reservations at a nice restaurant. Maybe you’ve even got tickets for a romantic show. Perhaps you’ve even arranged for a horse-drawn carriage.
But there’s one thing you haven’t quite figured out yet and that’s what you’re supposed to get your partner as a present for Valentine’s Day.
You know what you like, but you don’t know what your partner likes since your knowledge of Filipino culture might begin and end with them and because of that, you’ve got no idea what to get them for Valentine’s Day and now you’re starting to get worried that you’re going to show up empty-handed and that doing so will torpedo your relationship.
So now you’re racing against the clock, trying to find something to wrap in a pretty bow before the 14th of February comes around. But no matter how much you look, you can’t find anything. Maybe there’s just too many good options that you can’t pick just one. Maybe you don’t see any good options at all.
Flowers and chocolates
First, you can’t forget flowers and chocolates. You just can’t. A bouquet of flowers and some chocolates in a heart-shaped box are staples of Valentine’s Day so you can’t forget them. Now, the great thing about them is that they’re not that hard to procure around Valentine’s Day.
Flowers and chocolates in a heart-shaped box are so synonymous with the holiday that you should have no problem finding them basically anywhere in the weeks leading up to the 14th of February, especially once the month itself actually rolls around.
The Philippines consumes a lot of western media and the Filipina woman that you’re dating is probably going to expect a heart-shaped box of chocolates and some flowers on Valentine’s Day. You don’t want to disappoint her, do you?
An engagement ring
Imagine that you’ve been dating your partner for a while now. Imagine that you’re in a healthy, loving relationship that’s put some miles on it and you’re starting to feel like it’s about time you get it over the finish line and get married already.
So there’s really only one thing you have to get if you want to get your partner ready to walk down the aisle already. That one thing is an engagement ring. You present your partner with a box, get down on one knee, ask them a question, and hope they say yes. Which they probably will, since dating without eventually getting married isn’t something that’s done all too often in the Philippines.
Some rules state that you have to spend a certain amount on a ring. But the dollar value of the ring isn’t what’s important. It’s the emotional value of the ring and what it represents that is important. So you don’t have to go all out. Just make sure you don’t give her something that’ll turn her finger green.
Some other form of jewelry
Your relationship is loving and it’s healthy but you’re not at the point where walking down the aisle is the best thing to do just yet. But you still want to get your partner something nice and shiny for Valentine’s Day. What are you to do then?
Well, you can always go for some other form of jewelry, some other shiny bauble made of precious metal that comes in a leather-lined box.
A gift card
Okay, so jewelry isn’t something you can get your partner. At least not the kind of jewelry that won’t give them a skin infection. Maybe it’s a little out of your price range. Maybe you don’t trust that you have the good taste necessary to pick out something that’s not completely tacky.
So you don’t exactly trust your ability to make a choice when it comes to getting your partner something nice, something that they will appreciate. But you know who will be able to get your partner something that they appreciate? Your partner themselves.
Give them the choice of their own gift. Give them a gift card and they’ll be able to choose what gift you get them. It may feel impersonal, but when all else fails, the gift of choice is pretty much your best bet.
Your time and attention
At the end of the day, the 14th of February is about celebrating romantic love. It’s celebrating your relationship together and that’s the operative word here. Together. You can plan the most elaborate date in the world, make it an all-day affair, and get the best gifts in the world, and it won’t matter if you’re not actually present.
Sure, you can be there physically but if your heart’s not in it, it’s not going to matter how elaborate the date or expensive the gift is. If you’re not giving your partner your attention, then the date is going to go badly. Because it’s not just about the date and the gift. It’s about the two of you.
A celebration of love isn’t just about the gifts. But they are part of it. Look, they’re not the most important part, but they’re definitely on the podium when the medals are handed out. So don’t neglect the present.